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Is it normal that my toddler is not yet showing support?
Between 12 and 36 months, toddlers vary widely in how and when skills emerge, including 'support' skills like bearing weight, standing with help, or seeking comfort and help from you. A broad range is normal. Seek a gentle developmental check if a skill is clearly behind peers, has stalled or gone backwards, or several areas seem delayed together. This is not a diagnosis — it means early observation is wise, because early support works best.
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The word "support" can mean many things in early development — and noticing what your toddler is or isn't doing yet is thoughtful, loving parenting.
In short
Between 12 and 36 months, toddlers vary hugely in how and when skills emerge — including "support" skills like bearing weight, sitting or standing with support, or seeking and accepting your help and comfort. A wide range is completely normal at this age. The time to seek a gentle developmental check is when a skill is clearly lagging behind same-age peers, when progress has stalled or gone backwards, or when several areas — movement, talking, social connection — seem behind together. None of this is a diagnosis; it simply means a clinician's calm look is wise now, because early support works beautifully at this age.
What to watch at 12–36 months
Most toddlers reach physical and social "support" milestones along their own timeline. Gentle flags worth a clinician's eye include:
- Not bearing weight or pulling to stand — by around 12–15 months, most toddlers push up and bear weight on their legs with support.
- No supported sitting or standing — difficulty holding posture even when helped.
- Floppy or very stiff muscle tone — limbs that feel unusually loose or tight.
- Not seeking comfort or help — by 18–24 months, toddlers usually look to you for reassurance and reach for support when upset.
- Travelling with other differences — few words, little eye contact, not responding to their name, or loss of a skill once had.
- Going backwards — losing a skill they previously showed always deserves prompt review.
The aim isn't alarm — it's turning small questions into early opportunities.
When to act
If a skill is clearly behind, has stalled, or comes with delays in other areas, arrange a developmental check now rather than waiting. Trust your instinct — what you see every day is valuable clinical information.
The Pinnacle way
A clinical AbilityScore® and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care — never from an online list. Our clinicians build their own picture of your child's strengths and shape support around play. Our physiotherapy and occupational therapy teams can help with posture, movement and confident independence.
Trusted sources
CDC developmental milestones and "Learn the Signs, Act Early" resources; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) guidance on developmental monitoring in toddlers; WHO Nurturing Care framework for early childhood development.
Next step — Trust what you've noticed. Book a developmental assessment with a Pinnacle clinician for a calm, clear review of your toddler's milestones.
This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.
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What to notice
Seek a check if your toddler isn't bearing weight or pulling to stand by around 12–15 months, can't hold supported sitting or standing, has floppy or very stiff muscle tone, doesn't seek comfort or help when upset, shows few words or little eye contact, or has lost a skill once had. Going backwards always deserves prompt review.
In everyday life
Keep a short phone note of what your toddler does and doesn't do across a week — when they reach for help, how they hold posture, and any moments of comfort-seeking. These everyday observations give a clinician a clear, useful picture.
Bring your observations and questions to your child’s professional. Choose activities that suit your child’s comfort, abilities and agreed plan.
Bring your questions to a first visitQuestions families ask
At what age should my toddler bear weight on their legs?
Most toddlers push up and bear weight on their legs with support by around 12–15 months, and pull to stand soon after. There's a wide normal range, but if your toddler isn't bearing weight or holding posture even when helped, a gentle developmental check is wise.
Should I worry if my toddler doesn't seek help or comfort from me?
By around 18–24 months, most toddlers look to you for reassurance and reach for support when upset. If this isn't happening, or if it comes alongside few words, little eye contact, or not responding to their name, it's worth a calm clinician's review — not as a diagnosis, but as an early opportunity.
Is it serious if my toddler lost a skill they used to have?
Losing a skill a child previously showed — whether movement, words or social connection — always deserves a prompt developmental review. It doesn't mean something is wrong, but a clinician should take a careful look soon rather than waiting.
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References behind this answer.
- Source referenceCDC: Developmental Milestones & Act Early
- Source referenceAAP HealthyChildren: Toddler Development
- Organisation website · further readingWHO Nurturing Care Framework
References are supplied with this answer. An organisation homepage offers further reading; it does not establish an independent review of this page.
Content attribution: SETU Consortium · Pinnacle Blooms Network.
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