social skills
When a child in your care isn't yet showing social skills
If a child in your care isn't yet showing social skills like sharing smiles, looking at faces or taking turns, keep encouraging connection through warm everyday play and arrange a developmental check rather than waiting. Social skills grow at very different rates, so this is reason to observe and support early, not a diagnosis. Seek a check sooner if social connection seems consistently absent for the child's age or comes with speech or play delays.
Every child connects with the world in their own time — your noticing and caring is already the first, loving step.
In short
If a child in your care isn't yet showing social skills — like sharing smiles, looking at faces, playing alongside others or taking turns — the most helpful thing you can do is keep gently encouraging connection through everyday play, and arrange a calm developmental check rather than waiting. Social skills grow at very different rates, and a clinician's friendly look turns small questions into early opportunities. This is not a diagnosis — it simply means a kind, structured review is wise now.What to watch
Social skills build step by step, so notice where the child is rather than expecting a fixed timeline:- Connecting — do they share smiles, look towards faces, respond to their name, or enjoy little back-and-forth games like peekaboo?
- Sharing attention — do they point to show you something, follow your gaze, or bring a toy to share?
- Playing with others — do they watch other children, play alongside them, or begin to take turns?
- Travelling with other differences — few words, little eye contact, not responding to their name, or loss of a skill once had — these deserve a clinician's gentle eye sooner.
If social connection seems consistently absent for the child's age, or comes alongside speech or play delays, arrange a check now — early support works beautifully.
The science
Social skills (ICF d7) are learned through warm, repeated, responsive interaction. The strongest thing a caregiver can offer is serve-and-return — responding to a child's sounds, looks and gestures with delight, naming what they see, and giving plenty of unhurried face-to-face play. Connection grows fastest when it feels safe, playful and predictable.The Pinnacle way
A clinical AbilityScore® and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care — never from an online list. Our clinicians watch how the child connects during play, build a strengths-first picture, and shape support around joyful interaction. Learn more about social skills and how our behavioural therapy team nurtures connection.Trusted sources
WHO ICF framework for interpersonal interactions and relationships (d7); American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) guidance on social-emotional development; CDC "Learn the Signs, Act Early" milestone resources.Next step — Trust what you've noticed. Book a developmental assessment for a warm, clear review of the child's social development.
What to watch
Notice whether the child shares smiles, looks at faces, responds to their name, points to show you things, or plays alongside other children. Seek a developmental check if social connection seems consistently absent for the child's age, or comes alongside few words, little eye contact, not responding to name, or loss of a skill once had.
Try this at home
Try short bursts of face-to-face, screen-free play each day — copy the child's sounds and movements, then pause and wait for them to respond. This serve-and-return rhythm builds social connection more powerfully than any toy.
Trusted sources
Developed by SETU Consortium · Pinnacle Blooms Network · Last reviewed 2026-06-10 · reviewed every 540 days
This is general information, not a diagnosis. A clinical AbilityScore® and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care.
Frequently asked
Is it normal for a child to be slow to develop social skills?
Yes — social skills grow at very different rates, and some children simply take longer to share smiles, point or play alongside others. Keep encouraging connection through warm play, and if it seems consistently absent for the child's age, a developmental check is wise. This is reason to observe and support, not cause for alarm.
How can I help a child build social skills at home?
Offer plenty of unhurried, face-to-face, screen-free play. Copy the child's sounds and gestures, name what they look at, and use back-and-forth games like peekaboo or rolling a ball. This responsive serve-and-return interaction is the strongest way to nurture connection.
When should I arrange a developmental check?
Arrange a check now rather than waiting if social connection seems consistently absent for the child's age, or comes alongside few words, little eye contact, not responding to their name, or loss of a skill once had. Early support works beautifully at this stage.