# Where should I start to get help for a child with Selective Mutism?

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Start with a clinician-led developmental and speech-language assessment that looks at anxiety, communication and how a child copes across settings, then begin gentle graded support with home and school aligned. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*When a bright, chatty child at home falls completely silent at school, it isn't shyness or defiance — it's anxiety, and the right gentle support can help their voice return.*

## In short
Start with **a developmental and speech-language assessment** that looks at your child's anxiety, communication and how they cope across different settings. Selective mutism is an anxiety-based difficulty speaking in certain situations (often school) despite speaking freely where a child feels safe — so the most helpful first step is a clinician-led check that rules out other speech or hearing factors and shapes a calm, low-pressure plan. Early, gentle support works best, and most children gradually regain their confidence to speak.

## Where to begin, step by step
- **Begin at home with reassurance** — your child is not being stubborn or rude. Avoid pressuring them to speak or putting them "on the spot"; this usually deepens the anxiety.
- **Talk to your child's teacher** — quietly share what you see, so school becomes a partner rather than a place of pressure. Small accommodations help enormously.
- **Book a developmental and speech-language assessment** — a clinician checks hearing, speech-language skills and anxiety patterns, and confirms whether what you're seeing fits selective mutism or something else.
- **Start gentle, graded support** — therapy typically uses small, confidence-building steps (often called stimulus fading and shaping), pairing speech-language therapy with anxiety-friendly strategies so speaking feels safe again.
- **Keep home and school aligned** — consistency across settings is what helps a child's voice generalise from one place to the next.

The goal is never to force words but to lower anxiety so speaking becomes possible — first a whisper, then a word, then a conversation.

## When to seek a check
If your child speaks comfortably in some settings but has been consistently silent in others (such as school) for **a month or more** — beyond the first settling-in weeks of a new place — a developmental check is worth arranging. Early support tends to help most, because patterns of silence can otherwise become more entrenched over time.

## The Pinnacle way
AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or online form. Our team builds a [precise communication and confidence profile](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and a calm, graded plan through our [speech therapy](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/top-speech-therapy-center-india-proven-improvement-rate) programme. You can also explore how we [support children's development](/) across settings, in partnership with you and your child's school.

## Trusted sources
WHO ICD-11 classification of selective mutism as an anxiety-related condition; American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA) guidance on assessment and intervention; American Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) family resources.

**Next step —** Ready to help your child find their voice? [Book a developmental and speech-language assessment with a Pinnacle clinician](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/top-speech-therapy-center-india-proven-improvement-rate).

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- WHO ICD-11: selective mutism as an anxiety-related condition: https://icd.who.int/
- ASHA: selective mutism assessment and intervention: https://www.asha.org/
- AAP HealthyChildren.org: family guidance: https://www.healthychildren.org/

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### At home & in everyday life
- How can I support my child with Selective Mutism at home?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-i-support-my-child-with-selective-mutism-at-home

### Follow progress
- What progress can a child with Selective Mutism make with speech and language therapy?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-progress-can-a-child-with-selective-mutism-make-with-speech-and-language-therapy