# When do children usually start relating to people?

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Children build social skills gradually from 12 to 36 months: enjoying back-and-forth play and copying around age one, playing alongside others by two, and beginning to share and take turns by three. Ranges are wide; a screen helps if a toddler shows little interest in people or loses skills.

*The first friendship a baby ever makes is with you — and from there, relating to people unfolds step by step across the toddler years.*

## In short
Most children build social skills — what the ICF calls *relating to people* (d7) — gradually between 12 and 36 months. Around the first birthday they enjoy back-and-forth play and copy your actions; by two they play alongside other children and show clear affection; by three they begin to take turns, share, and play *with* friends. There is a wide, healthy range, so think of these as a path, not a deadline.

## How relating to people grows
**12–18 months** — gives hugs, plays peek-a-boo and simple turn-taking games, brings you things to show, looks to your face to check how to feel about something new.

**18–24 months** — copies older children and adults, plays happily near other toddlers (parallel play), shows pride and seeks praise, may have brief separation upset.

**24–36 months** — shows concern when someone cries, takes turns with help, starts simple pretend play with others, and by three increasingly enjoys cooperative play with friends.

Watch-and-monitor — and mention at your next visit — if a toddler rarely makes eye contact, doesn't respond to their name, shows little interest in other people, or loses social skills they once had. These are reasons for a friendly developmental check, not alarm.

## The Pinnacle way
Every child relates in their own rhythm. A clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre under qualified clinician care — a screen is simply a warm first step. Explore [relating to people](/relating-to-people) and our [occupational therapy](/occupational-therapy) support to nurture social play.

## Trusted sources
Guided by WHO ICF (d7 social interactions), CDC developmental milestones, and AAP/HealthyChildren guidance on toddler social growth.

**Next step —** if you're curious about your child's social development, book a gentle developmental screen with our team on WhatsApp: +91 91001 81181.

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- CDC developmental milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- WHO ICF social interactions (d7): https://icd.who.int/
- AAP HealthyChildren on toddler social growth: https://www.healthychildren.org/

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/skills
- Parent / Family: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/parent
- Toddler: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/age/toddler
- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
- Milestone: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/milestone
- Screen: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/screen
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Early Clarity: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/early_clarity
- People: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/ability/people
- Childhood Autism Rating Scale, 2nd ed.: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/assessment/cars2
- English: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/language/en
- SDG 3: Good Health and Well-being: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/sdg/3
- relating to people: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/skill/relating-to-people
- ASHA / PHC / Frontline: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/asha_phc
- Therapist / Clinician: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/therapist

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- If a child isn't yet relating to people: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-what-should-i-do-if-a-child-in-my-care-is-not-yet-showing-relating-to-people
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- Relating to People — Home Visit Observation Guide: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/during-a-home-visit-what-should-a-frontline-worker-observe-about-a-child-learning-to-relating-to-people
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### Understand assessment
- Amber Zone for Relating to People — What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-relating-to-people-what-does-that-mean
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- Red zone for relating to people — your next steps: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-relating-to-people-what-should-we-do-next
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