# What does it mean if my child is not yet showing social skills?

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For a toddler aged 1–3, social skills like sharing and turn-taking are still unfolding and arrive at very different speeds — not showing every skill usually means more time and practice is needed, not that something is wrong. Seek a developmental check if there is little eye contact, no shared smiling, no pointing or showing, no response to their name, or any loss of skills. This is a reason to observe early, never a diagnosis.

*If you're watching your toddler play a little apart from others and wondering quietly whether they're 'behind' on making friends, that gentle attentiveness is exactly what helps them most.*

## In short
For a toddler aged 1–3, social skills are still very much unfolding — sharing, taking turns, and playing *with* (rather than near) other children often arrive later than we expect, and at very different speeds for different children. A child not yet showing certain social skills usually means they simply need a little more time, modelling and practice — not that something is wrong. It becomes worth a developmental check when there is little eye contact, no shared smiling, no pointing or showing things, no response to their name, or a loss of skills they once had.

## What to watch at 12–36 months
Social development at this age is a gradual story, not a switch. Reassuring, age-appropriate things to look for include:

- **Connection** — shared smiles, looking to you when something is exciting or new, and enjoying simple back-and-forth games like peek-a-boo.
- **Communication** — pointing to show you something, following your gaze, and bringing toys to share interest.
- **Play** — copying what you do, and (from around 2–3) beginning simple pretend and side-by-side play. Genuine *sharing* and turn-taking come later — this is normal.

Gentle flags that deserve a clinician's eye are: little eye contact or shared smiling, not responding to their name by 12–18 months, no pointing or showing by 18 months, no interest in other people, or any loss of social skills, words or gestures. These are reasons to observe and check early — never a diagnosis.

## The Pinnacle way
This is general information, not a diagnosis — a clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care. Our therapists build support around your child's strengths and natural play. Learn more about [social skills](/social-skills) and how gentle, play-based [behavioural therapy](/behavioural-therapy) nurtures connection at this age.

## Trusted sources
CDC 'Learn the Signs, Act Early' milestone guidance; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) on social-emotional development in toddlers; WHO Nurturing Care framework for early childhood.

**Next step —** Trust what you've noticed. [Book a developmental assessment](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/enroll-autism-speech-aba-therapies-india) so a Pinnacle clinician can review your child's social growth with warmth and clarity.

## Sources
- ICF d7: https://icd.who.int/browse11
- CDC: Learn the Signs, Act Early — developmental milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- AAP HealthyChildren: social-emotional development in toddlers: https://www.healthychildren.org
- WHO Nurturing Care Framework for early childhood development: https://nurturing-care.org

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- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
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