# Is it normal to feel upset or jealous sometimes?

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It is completely normal for brothers and sisters to feel upset or jealous sometimes, especially when a sibling needs extra help and attention. These feelings are okay, and the most helpful thing is to share them with a trusted grown-up. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*Feeling upset or jealous sometimes doesn't make you a bad brother or sister — it makes you human.*

## In short
Yes — it is completely normal to feel upset, cross, or jealous sometimes. Lots of brothers and sisters feel this way, especially when it seems like your sibling gets extra time, help, or attention. These feelings are okay. What matters is that you have someone safe to share them with, so the feelings don't get stuck inside.

## Why these feelings happen
When your brother or sister needs more help with talking, learning, or everyday things, grown-ups often spend lots of time with them. That can leave you feeling:

- **Left out** — like nobody noticed you today.
- **Jealous** — wishing some of that attention was for you.
- **Cross or guilty** — angry one minute, then feeling bad for being angry.
- **Worried** — about your sibling, or about getting it "wrong".

Every one of these feelings is allowed. You can love your sibling *and* feel upset on the same day. Both can be true at once.

## What can help
- **Tell someone you trust** — a parent, grandparent, or teacher. Saying "I felt left out today" helps more than keeping it inside.
- **Ask for your own special time** — even ten minutes that is just *yours* with a grown-up makes a big difference.
- **Find your own thing** — a hobby, a sport, a friend, a quiet corner — something that is yours.
- **Remember it's not your job to fix everything.** You are the brother or sister, not the carer.

## The Pinnacle way
This is general support information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional. Your family is never alone in this: explore how we support [the whole family](/) , learn what your sibling's [therapy looks like](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/top-speech-therapy-center-india-proven-improvement-rate) so it feels less mysterious, and read about [how progress is understood](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated).

## Trusted sources
American Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) guidance on supporting siblings of children with developmental needs; WHO Nurturing Care Framework on family wellbeing within child development.

**Next step —** If these feelings feel heavy a lot of the time, tell a grown-up — and families can [talk to a Pinnacle clinician](/) about support for everyone at home.

## Sources
- AAP HealthyChildren.org — supporting siblings: https://www.healthychildren.org
- WHO Nurturing Care Framework — family wellbeing: https://nurturing-care.org

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Sibling: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/sibling
- Support: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/support
- Screen: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/screen
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Family Empowerment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/family_empowerment

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