# Is it normal that my toddler is not yet showing social-emotional skills?

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Social-emotional skills develop across a wide window in the toddler years (12–36 months), with real variation between healthy children. By this age most toddlers share smiles, seek comfort, copy others and show feelings. If your toddler shows little connection, or seems to lose skills once present, a gentle developmental check is wise now — not as alarm, but because early support works best.

*Watching how your little one connects, smiles and shares feelings is one of the loveliest — and most natural — parts of parenting.*

## In short
Social-emotional skills bloom across a wide window in the toddler years, and there is real variation between healthy children. By around 12–36 months most toddlers begin to share smiles, show affection, point to share interest, copy others, and show feelings like joy, frustration or shyness — but each child arrives at their own pace. If your toddler shows little of this connection, or seems to be losing skills once present, a gentle developmental check is wise now — not as alarm, but because early support works beautifully.

## What to watch at 12–36 months
Social-emotional growth is gradual. Reassuring signs that connection is developing include:

- **Sharing emotion** — smiling back, showing you toys, looking to you when unsure ("social referencing").
- **Warmth and comfort** — seeking cuddles, settling when held, showing affection to familiar people.
- **Copying and joining in** — imitating little actions, simple pretend play, enjoying peek-a-boo or songs.
- **Expressing feelings** — showing joy, frustration, shyness or excitement in ways you can read.

Gentle flags that deserve a clinician's eye: little eye contact or shared smiling, not responding to their name, not pointing to show you things, very limited interest in people, or losing a social skill once had. Any of these — especially alongside few words — are good reasons to ask, not to fear.

## When to act
If you notice several of these flags, or your instinct says something feels different, arrange a developmental check now rather than waiting and watching. What you observe every day is valuable clinical information.

## The Pinnacle way
A clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care — never from an online list. Our clinicians look at how your child connects in play and build support around strengths. Read more about [social emotional](/social-emotional) development and how our [behaviour therapy](/behaviour-therapy) team gently nurtures connection.

## Trusted sources
CDC "Learn the Signs, Act Early" social-emotional milestones; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) guidance on toddler social and emotional development; WHO ICF framework for emotional functions (b152).

**Next step —** Trust what you've noticed. [Book a developmental assessment](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/enroll-autism-speech-aba-therapies-india) with a Pinnacle clinician for a calm, clear review of your toddler's social and emotional milestones.

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- CDC: Learn the Signs, Act Early milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- AAP: Toddler social and emotional development: https://www.healthychildren.org
- WHO ICF: emotional functions (b152): https://icd.who.int

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/skills
- Parent / Family: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/parent
- Toddler: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/age/toddler
- Emotional: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/emotional
- Concern: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/concern
- Screen: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/screen
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Early Clarity: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/early_clarity
- Emotional: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/ability/emotional
- Bayley Scales of Infant and Toddler Development, 4th ed.: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/assessment/bayley4
- English: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/language/en
- SDG 3: Good Health and Well-being: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/sdg/3
- social emotional: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/skill/social-emotional
- ASHA / PHC / Frontline: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/asha_phc
- Therapist / Clinician: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/therapist

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