# Is it normal that my toddler is not yet showing relationship skills?

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For a toddler aged 1–3, relationship skills are only just beginning — true sharing and friendships develop slowly, so most variation is normal. Focus on the foundations: seeking you out, sharing smiles, responding to their name, pointing to show you things, and simple back-and-forth play. Parallel play beside other children is typical. Seek a developmental check if, by ~18–24 months, there's little eye contact, no pointing or showing, little response to name, or any loss of social skills — not as a diagnosis, but because early support works best.

*If your little one isn't quite playing alongside others or sharing smiles the way you imagined, your watchfulness is exactly the loving attention they need.*

## In short
For a toddler aged 1–3, relationship skills are only just beginning to bud — true sharing, turn-taking and friendships develop gradually over these years, so most variation is completely normal. What matters more is the foundation: does your child seek you out, respond to their name, share smiles, point to show you things, and enjoy simple back-and-forth play? If those building blocks are present, you have good reason to feel reassured. A check is wise only if several are absent for your child's age.

## What to watch at 12–36 months
Relationship skills grow in small, predictable steps — not all at once. Gentle things to notice:

- **Connection** — does your toddler look to you for comfort, share eye contact, and smile back when you smile?
- **Sharing interest** — by ~18 months, do they point to show you something, or bring you a toy just to share the moment?
- **Back-and-forth** — simple peekaboo, rolling a ball, copying your actions or sounds.
- **Interest in others** — watching or playing near other children (true sharing comes later, often after 3).

Parallel play — playing beside, not with, another child — is entirely typical for this age. Seek a developmental check if, by ~18–24 months, there's little eye contact or shared smiling, no pointing or showing, little response to their name, or any loss of social skills once present.

## The Pinnacle way
This is general information, not a diagnosis — Developmental measurement supports care planning; diagnosis requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional., under qualified clinician care. Our clinicians build their own developmental baseline and shape gentle, play-based support around your child's strengths. Learn more about [relationship skills](/relationship-skills), how our [behavioural therapy](/behavioural-therapy) team supports social connection, and [what the AbilityScore® is](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated).

## Trusted sources
WHO and Nurturing Care framework on early social-emotional development; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) milestone guidance; CDC "Learn the Signs, Act Early" social and emotional milestones.

**Next step —** Trust what you've noticed. [Book a developmental check](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/enroll-autism-speech-aba-therapies-india) so your toddler's social steps are reviewed with clarity and care.

## Sources
- ICF d7: https://icd.who.int/browse11
- CDC – Learn the Signs, Act Early: social-emotional milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- AAP healthychildren.org – toddler social development: https://www.healthychildren.org
- WHO Nurturing Care Framework – early social-emotional development: https://nurturing-care.org

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- Toddler: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/age/toddler
- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
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- Social Skills Improvement System Rating Scales: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/assessment/ssis
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- ASHA / PHC / Frontline: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/asha_phc
- Therapist / Clinician: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/therapist

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