# When to escalate a social greeting delay

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Social greeting — waving, smiling back, saying hi or bye — usually appears across the first and second year, with most toddlers waving by 12–15 months. A frontline health worker should watch and review in 4–6 weeks if greeting is the only concern and the child is otherwise connecting, but refer for a developmental check now when absent greeting comes with red flags such as no response to name, little eye contact, no pointing, few words — or any loss of a skill. It is a reason to assess early, never a diagnosis.

*A child who waves bye-bye, smiles back or says hello in their own way is showing us their social world is opening — when that's slow to come, a calm, timely look is exactly the right response.*

## In short
Social greeting — waving, smiling in return, saying or gesturing "hi" and "bye" — usually emerges across the first and second year, with most toddlers waving by around 12–15 months. As a frontline health worker, **escalate to a developmental check when greeting is clearly absent for age AND travels with other red flags**: no response to name, little eye contact or shared smiling, no pointing or showing, few or no words, or loss of a skill once present. One isolated delay is a reason to watch and review; a cluster, or any regression, is a reason to refer now — not to wait.

## When to escalate
Use a simple watch-and-refer approach at each contact:

- **Watch and review in 4–6 weeks** — if greeting is the only concern, the child is otherwise connecting (eye contact, shared smiles, responding to name), and there's no regression.
- **Refer for a developmental check now** when absent greeting comes **with any of**: not responding to name by 12 months, no waving/pointing/showing by 15–18 months, little or no babble or words, minimal eye contact or social smiling, or no interest in people.
- **Refer promptly regardless of age** if a child has **lost** greeting, words or social skills once present, or if a parent feels something has changed — parent instinct is valuable screening information.

Greeting is a single ICF activity (d7, interpersonal interactions). It is one data point, never a diagnosis — your job is to spot the pattern and route the family kindly and early.

## The Pinnacle way
A clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care — never from a checklist or a single missed milestone. Our clinicians build a full picture of how a child connects, plays and communicates. You can read more about [social greeting](/social-greeting) and how we support early social communication, and our [speech therapy](/speech-therapy) team works closely with families once a referral arrives.

## Trusted sources
WHO ICF framework (interpersonal interactions, chapter d7); CDC "Learn the Signs, Act Early" developmental milestones and act-early guidance; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) on developmental surveillance and when to refer in primary care.

**Next step —** When you see absent greeting plus other flags, route the family today. [Book a developmental assessment](/enroll) with a Pinnacle clinician for a calm, clear review.

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- CDC Learn the Signs, Act Early — milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- WHO ICF — interpersonal interactions (d7): https://icd.who.int/
- AAP HealthyChildren — developmental surveillance: https://www.healthychildren.org/

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/skills
- Asha Phc: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/asha_phc
- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
- Concern: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/concern
- Screen: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/screen
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Early Clarity: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/early_clarity

## Related question paths

### Recognise signs & concerns
- When to escalate a child's social interaction delay: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-interaction-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- When to escalate if a child isn't socialising at the expected age: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- When should a frontline health worker escalate social-connection concerns?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-socialization-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- When to escalate social reciprocity concerns: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-reciprocity-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- When should a frontline worker escalate a social-communication concern?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-communication-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- Escalating Social Understanding Delays: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-understanding-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- Social Greeting: What to Observe on a Home Visit: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/during-a-home-visit-what-should-a-frontline-worker-observe-about-a-child-learning-to-social-greeting
- Caregiver Guide: When a Child Isn't Greeting Yet: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-what-should-i-do-if-a-child-in-my-care-is-not-yet-showing-social-greeting
- At what age should a child use social greetings?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/at-what-age-should-a-child-social-greeting
- Social greeting milestone — age expectations for teachers: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/by-what-age-is-a-child-usually-expected-to-social-greeting-and-what-should-a-teacher-expect-in-class
- Could difficulty with social greeting be a sign of a developmental delay?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/could-difficulty-with-social-greeting-be-a-sign-of-a-developmental-delay
- Is difficulty with social greeting a developmental red flag?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/is-difficulty-learning-to-social-greeting-a-clinical-red-flag-that-warrants-a-developmental-referral

### Understand assessment
- How a clinician assesses and tracks social greeting: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-clinician-assess-and-track-a-child-s-progress-in-learning-to-social-greeting
- Amber Zone for Social Greeting: What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean
- Green Zone for Social Greeting Explained: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean
- Red Zone for Social Greeting — What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean

### Explore therapy & support
- Techniques to develop social greeting: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-therapist-what-techniques-help-a-child-develop-the-ability-to-social-greeting
- How can a teacher support a child working on social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-child-working-on-social-greeting
- How can a teacher support a student who is still learning to social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-student-who-is-still-learning-to-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the amber zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the green zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the red zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting
- Amber zone for social greeting — your next step: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- Green zone for social greeting: what to do next: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- Red Zone in Social Greeting — Your Next Steps: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- What therapy helps a child learn social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-therapy-helps-a-child-learn-to-social-greeting

### At home & in everyday life
- Helping Your Child Practise Social Greetings at Home: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-how-can-i-gently-help-a-child-practise-learning-to-social-greeting-during-everyday-routines
- Helping Your Child Learn Social Greeting at Home: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-i-help-my-child-with-learn-to-social-greeting-at-home
- What is one Everyday Therapy activity to help my child with social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-is-one-everyday-therapy-activity-to-help-my-child-with-social-greeting