# How do I tell my friends about how I learn?

Canonical: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-tell-my-friends-about-how-i-learn
Publisher: Pinnacle Blooms Network / Bharath Healthcare Laboratories Private Limited

Children can tell friends how they learn using short, true and friendly words — sharing what helps them and choosing how much to say. Practising at home and asking a trusted grown-up makes it easier. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*Telling your friends how you learn is like giving them a map to the real you — and the best friends will be glad you did.*

## In short
You can tell your friends about how you learn by using simple, true words — like "I learn best when I can see pictures" or "I need a little extra time, and that's okay". You don't have to explain everything, just the parts that help them be a good friend. The way you learn is one cool thing about you, not a secret you have to hide.

## Ways to say it
- **Keep it short and friendly:** "My brain works a bit differently — I learn best by *doing* things instead of just listening."
- **Tell them what helps:** "It helps me if you talk a little slower" or "I like when we read it together."
- **Use a fun comparison:** "My brain is like a phone that needs a different charger — once it's plugged in the right way, it works great!"
- **Pick a calm moment:** maybe while you're playing or sitting together, not in the middle of a busy class.
- **You choose how much to share:** you can tell one trusted friend first, then more when you feel ready. It's always your choice.

Good friends listen and want to understand. If a friend is kind about it, that's a friend worth keeping. And if you feel nervous, a grown-up you trust — a parent, teacher or therapist — can help you find the words or be there with you.

## A little practice
Try saying it out loud at home first, like rehearsing for a play. You could even practise with a parent who pretends to be your friend. The more you say it, the easier the words come — and soon it will feel as natural as saying your favourite colour.

## The Pinnacle way
AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or a form. Our therapists help children find their own confident words for how they learn and feel. Explore how we support [every child](/) , how a [clinician-led assessment](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) builds a picture of your strengths, and how [speech and communication therapy](/speech-therapy) can help you say what you mean.

## Trusted sources
American Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) guidance on helping children build self-understanding and friendships; ASHA guidance on social communication and self-advocacy for children.

**Next step —** Want help finding your words and feeling proud of how you learn? [Talk to a Pinnacle clinician](/speech-therapy).

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- AAP HealthyChildren.org — building self-understanding and friendships: https://www.healthychildren.org
- ASHA — social communication and self-advocacy for children: https://www.asha.org