{"h1":"How do I tell my friends about how I learn?","faq":[{"a":"No — it's always your choice. You can share with one friend you trust, or wait until you feel ready. There's no rush, and the way you learn is yours to share when it feels right.","q":"Do I have to tell my friends how I learn?"},{"a":"Some friends understand right away, and some need a little time. If a friend is unkind, that's about them, not you. A trusted grown-up can help, and good friends will want to learn how to support you.","q":"What if a friend doesn't understand?"},{"a":"Use short, true sentences like “I learn best with pictures” or “I need a little extra time.” You can also use a fun comparison, like saying your brain just needs a different kind of charger to work brilliantly.","q":"How do I explain it in a simple way?"}],"lang":"en","slug":"how-do-i-tell-my-friends-about-how-i-learn","title":"How do I tell my friends about how I learn?","entity":{"key":"self_tellfriends","kind":"self_voice","name":"For Children","slug":null},"parent":null,"related":[{"lang":"en","slug":"my-classmate-learns-differently-how-can-i-be-a-good-friend","title":"Being a Good Friend to a Classmate Who Learns Differently"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-can-i-help-my-child-make-and-keep-friends-at-school","title":"How can I help my child make and keep friends at school?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-do-i-help-my-child-make-friends-and-fit-in-at-school","title":"How do I help my child make friends and fit in at school?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-do-i-explain-my-child-s-condition-to-family-and-relatives","title":"How do I explain my child's condition to family and relatives?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"why-is-it-hard-for-me-to-make-friends","title":"Why is it hard for me to make friends?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"why-does-my-friend-behave-differently-from-me","title":"Why does my friend behave differently from me?"}],"summary":"Children can tell friends how they learn using short, true and friendly words — sharing what helps them and choosing how much to say. Practising at home and asking a trusted grown-up makes it easier. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.","answer_md":"*Telling your friends how you learn is like giving them a map to the real you — and the best friends will be glad you did.*\n\n## In short\nYou can tell your friends about how you learn by using simple, true words — like \"I learn best when I can see pictures\" or \"I need a little extra time, and that's okay\". You don't have to explain everything, just the parts that help them be a good friend. The way you learn is one cool thing about you, not a secret you have to hide.\n\n## Ways to say it\n- **Keep it short and friendly:** \"My brain works a bit differently — I learn best by *doing* things instead of just listening.\"\n- **Tell them what helps:** \"It helps me if you talk a little slower\" or \"I like when we read it together.\"\n- **Use a fun comparison:** \"My brain is like a phone that needs a different charger — once it's plugged in the right way, it works great!\"\n- **Pick a calm moment:** maybe while you're playing or sitting together, not in the middle of a busy class.\n- **You choose how much to share:** you can tell one trusted friend first, then more when you feel ready. It's always your choice.\n\nGood friends listen and want to understand. If a friend is kind about it, that's a friend worth keeping. And if you feel nervous, a grown-up you trust — a parent, teacher or therapist — can help you find the words or be there with you.\n\n## A little practice\nTry saying it out loud at home first, like rehearsing for a play. You could even practise with a parent who pretends to be your friend. The more you say it, the easier the words come — and soon it will feel as natural as saying your favourite colour.\n\n## The Pinnacle way\nAbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or a form. Our therapists help children find their own confident words for how they learn and feel. Explore how we support [every child](/) , how a [clinician-led assessment](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) builds a picture of your strengths, and how [speech and communication therapy](/speech-therapy) can help you say what you mean.\n\n## Trusted sources\nAmerican Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) guidance on helping children build self-understanding and friendships; ASHA guidance on social communication and self-advocacy for children.\n\n**Next step —** Want help finding your words and feeling proud of how you learn? [Talk to a Pinnacle clinician](/speech-therapy).\n\nThis is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.","canonical":"https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-tell-my-friends-about-how-i-learn","editorial":{"reviewed_at":"2026-06-11T20:12:18.613642+00:00","reviewed_by":null,"developed_by":"SETU Consortium · Pinnacle Blooms Network"},"alternates":[{"href":"https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-tell-my-friends-about-how-i-learn","lang":"en","indexable":true},{"href":"https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-tell-my-friends-about-how-i-learn-te","lang":"te","indexable":true}],"meta_title":"How to Tell Friends How You Learn","meta_robots":"index, follow, max-image-preview:large","everyday_tip":"Practise the words at home first — let your child rehearse one short sentence like “I learn best by doing” with you pretending to be the friend.","published_at":"2026-06-10T13:50:00.132992+00:00","what_to_watch":"Notice if your child seems worried, sad or left out because of how they learn — and whether friends respond kindly when your child shares; ongoing distress is a good reason to talk with a teacher or clinician.","authority_links":[{"url":"https://www.healthychildren.org","label":"AAP HealthyChildren.org — building self-understanding and friendships"},{"url":"https://www.asha.org","label":"ASHA — social communication and self-advocacy for children"}],"last_reviewed_at":"2026-06-10T13:50:00.132992+00:00","meta_description":"Simple, friendly ways for children to tell their friends how they learn best — with kind words, easy examples and help from a trusted grown-up.","related_materials":[],"related_techniques":[]}