# How do I support the siblings of a child with FASD?

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Siblings of a child with FASD are supported through honest age-appropriate explanations, protected one-to-one time, permission to feel everything, fair and predictable routines, and connection with other families — never being made into substitute carers. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*When one child needs extra support, their brothers and sisters carry quiet feelings too — and they deserve to be seen, heard and held just as warmly.*

## In short
Siblings of a child with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) thrive when you give them **honest age-appropriate information, protected one-to-one time, and permission to feel everything** — pride, love, frustration and worry alike. Children often sense more than they can say, so naming feelings, keeping routines fair and predictable, and connecting with other families all help enormously. You are not choosing one child over another; you are building a family where every child feels secure.

## How to support the siblings
- **Explain FASD simply and honestly** — in words that fit each child's age. "Your brother's brain works in its own way, so some things are harder for him" prevents children inventing scarier explanations or blaming themselves.
- **Protect one-to-one time** — even ten unhurried minutes a day that belongs only to them tells a sibling they matter just as much. Predictable, undivided attention is more powerful than grand gestures.
- **Let all feelings be okay** — siblings may feel love and resentment in the same hour. Welcome the difficult feelings without correction; bottled-up worry is heavier than spoken worry.
- **Keep fairness and routine clear** — FASD can mean behaviour that's hard to predict. Calm, consistent house routines and clear, simple rules help every child feel safe, and reduce a sibling feeling "the rules don't apply to him".
- **Give them a role, not a job** — small, voluntary ways to help build pride, but never make a sibling a substitute carer. Their childhood comes first.
- **Watch their own wellbeing** — changes in sleep, school, appetite or mood, or becoming "too good", can signal a sibling silently struggling and needing more support.

## Connection helps the whole family
Siblings often feel they are the only ones with a family like theirs. Meeting other brothers and sisters — through support groups or sibling sessions — reminds them they are not alone, and gives them a place to share what they can't always say at home. Looking after your own wellbeing as parents matters too: children settle when the adults around them feel supported.

## The Pinnacle way
AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or online form. When the child with [FASD](/) has a clear support plan, the whole family breathes easier — our teams coach parents on routines and communication that help every child feel secure, drawing on [behavioural therapy](/behavioural-therapy) and family guidance. Understand how your child's strengths and needs are mapped through the clinician-led [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated).

## Trusted sources
WHO ICD-11 framing of neurodevelopmental conditions; CDC FASD family and caregiver resources; American Academy of Pediatrics guidance on supporting siblings of children with disabilities (HealthyChildren.org).

**Next step —** Want a calmer, more confident family routine for every child? [Book a family-centred assessment with a Pinnacle clinician](/behavioural-therapy).

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- CDC — Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders resources: https://www.cdc.gov/fasd/
- AAP — HealthyChildren.org sibling support guidance: https://www.healthychildren.org
- WHO ICD-11: https://icd.who.int

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