{"h1":"How do I stop my child from throwing things?","faq":[{"a":"Throwing is a normal way young children explore cause-and-effect, release big feelings, seek attention, or communicate a need they don't yet have words for. It usually eases as language and self-control grow.","q":"Why does my toddler throw things so much?"},{"a":"Punishment is rarely effective and a big reaction can accidentally make throwing more rewarding. A calm, brief response, redirecting to a safe alternative and naming the feeling teach faster than any single consequence.","q":"Should I punish my child for throwing?"},{"a":"Consider a developmental check if the throwing is frequent, intense and hard to settle well beyond the toddler years, often hurts others, comes with very few words, difficulty calming down, or reduced eye contact and play.","q":"When should I worry about my child throwing things?"}],"lang":"en","slug":"how-do-i-stop-my-child-from-throwing-things","title":"How do I stop my child from throwing things?","entity":{"key":"throwing-things","kind":"behaviour_management","name":"Throwing Things","slug":null},"lenses":[{"kind":"stakeholder","label":"Parent","value":"parent"},{"kind":"intent","label":"Support","value":"support"},{"kind":"lifecycle","label":"Plan","value":"plan"},{"kind":"route","label":"Behaviour-Therapy","value":"behaviour-therapy"},{"kind":"empowerment","label":"Family Empowerment","value":"family_empowerment"}],"parent":null,"related":[{"lang":"en","slug":"is-throwing-objects-a-normal-part-of-child-development","title":"Is Throwing Objects a Normal Part of Child Development?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"what-makes-throwing-objects-worse-in-a-child","title":"What Makes Throwing Objects Worse in a Child?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"what-causes-throwing-objects-in-young-children","title":"What causes throwing objects in young children?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"why-does-my-child-throw-things-and-how-do-i-redirect-it","title":"Why Does My Child Throw Things, and How Do I Redirect It?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-should-a-teacher-respond-to-throwing-objects-in-a-young-child","title":"How should a teacher respond to a young child throwing objects?"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-can-i-help-a-young-child-with-throwing-objects","title":"How can I help a young child with throwing objects?"}],"summary":"Throwing things is a normal part of early development — children throw to explore, express big feelings, seek attention or because they lack the words to say what they need. The most effective approach is calm, consistent teaching: understand the reason behind the throw, offer a safe alternative, name the feeling and gently teach repair, rather than punishing. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.","answer_md":"*When your child hurls a toy across the room, it can feel maddening — but throwing is almost always a child telling you something with their hands before they have the words.*\n\n## In short\nThrowing things is a **very normal part of early development** — young children throw to explore cause-and-effect, release big feelings, get attention, or because they don't yet have the words to say what they need. The most effective way to reduce it is not punishment, but **understanding the *why* behind each throw** and gently teaching a better way to meet that same need. With calm, consistent responses most throwing settles as your child's language and self-control grow.\n\n## What helps right now\n- **Look for the message.** Is your child bored, tired, hungry, overwhelmed, or wanting your attention? Throwing usually has a reason — meet that need and the throwing eases.\n- **Stay calm and brief.** A big reaction (shouting, chasing) can accidentally make throwing more fun or rewarding. Say simply, *\"Toys are not for throwing,\"* and redirect.\n- **Offer a yes instead of only a no.** Give a safe outlet — *\"We can throw the soft ball outside\"* — so the urge to throw has somewhere to go.\n- **Name the feeling.** *\"You're cross because it's tidy-up time.\"* Putting words to emotions builds the language that slowly replaces throwing.\n- **Teach the repair.** Calmly help your child pick up what they threw — not as punishment, but as a gentle, predictable routine.\n- **Be consistent.** The same calm response every time helps your child learn faster than any single big consequence.\n\nMost throwing in toddlers fades as words, patience and motor control mature. The goal is to teach, not to win.\n\n## When to seek a check\nConsider a developmental check if the throwing is **frequent, intense and hard to settle well beyond the toddler years**, if it often hurts others or your child, if your child has very few words to express needs, struggles to calm down after being upset, avoids eye contact or play, or if family life feels overwhelmed. These can be signs that a little extra support with communication or sensory regulation would help.\n\n## The Pinnacle way\nAbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or online form. If throwing feels unmanageable or your child struggles to express needs, our team can gently explore what's driving the behaviour and build a plan around your child through a clinician-administered [AbilityScore® assessment](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated), drawing on [behaviour and developmental therapy](/behaviour-therapy) and [speech and language support](/speech-therapy) where words are still emerging. Learn more about how we [support families](/).\n\n## Trusted sources\nAmerican Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) guidance on toddler behaviour and discipline; CDC milestone and positive-parenting resources; ASHA guidance on early communication. These describe throwing as a common early behaviour best met with calm, consistent teaching rather than punishment.\n\n**Next step —** Worried the throwing is more than a phase? [Book a developmental check with a Pinnacle clinician](/behaviour-therapy).\n\nThis is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.","canonical":"https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-stop-my-child-from-throwing-things","editorial":{"reviewed_at":"2026-06-11T20:12:18.613642+00:00","reviewed_by":null,"developed_by":"SETU Consortium · Pinnacle Blooms Network"},"alternates":[{"href":"https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-do-i-stop-my-child-from-throwing-things","lang":"en","indexable":true}],"dimensions":[],"meta_title":"How to Stop Your Child Throwing Things","meta_robots":"index, follow, max-image-preview:large","everyday_tip":"Offer a 'yes' alongside the 'no' — keep a soft ball or beanbag handy and say, 'Toys are not for throwing, but we can throw this here,' so the urge has a safe place to go.","published_at":"2026-06-10T13:18:00.18205+00:00","reading_paths":[{"key":"causes","items":[{"lang":"en","slug":"what-causes-throwing-objects-in-young-children","title":"What causes throwing objects in young children?","reason":"Linked from this answer"}],"label":"Explore causes & influences","total":1},{"key":"therapy","items":[{"lang":"en","slug":"what-makes-throwing-objects-worse-in-a-child","title":"What Makes Throwing Objects Worse in a Child?","reason":"Linked from this answer"},{"lang":"en","slug":"is-throwing-objects-a-normal-part-of-child-development","title":"Is Throwing Objects a Normal Part of Child Development?","reason":"Linked from this answer"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-should-a-teacher-respond-to-throwing-objects-in-a-young-child","title":"How should a teacher respond to a young child throwing objects?","reason":"Linked from this answer"}],"label":"Explore therapy & support","total":3},{"key":"home","items":[{"lang":"en","slug":"why-does-my-child-throw-things-and-how-do-i-redirect-it","title":"Why Does My Child Throw Things, and How Do I Redirect It?","reason":"Linked from this answer"},{"lang":"en","slug":"how-can-i-help-a-young-child-with-throwing-objects","title":"How can I help a young child with throwing objects?","reason":"Linked from this answer"}],"label":"At home & in everyday life","total":2}],"what_to_watch":"Watch for throwing that is frequent, intense and hard to settle well beyond the toddler years, often hurts others, comes with very few words to express needs, difficulty calming after upset, or reduced eye contact and play — signs that extra communication or regulation support may help.","authority_links":[{"url":"https://healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Disciplining-Your-Child.aspx","label":"AAP HealthyChildren — disciplining your child"},{"url":"https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/index.html","label":"CDC — positive parenting essentials"},{"url":"https://www.asha.org/public/speech/development/communicationdevelopment/","label":"ASHA — how children communicate"}],"last_reviewed_at":"2026-06-10T13:18:00.18205+00:00","meta_description":"Throwing is normal in young children. 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