# How do I get my child to make eye contact?

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Build eye contact by inviting rather than forcing it — get face-to-face at your child's level, join their play, and pair your face with things they love so looking towards you brings delight. Never hold or turn the chin; celebrate any brief glance. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*Eye contact isn't something you force — it's something you gently invite, by becoming the most interesting, warmest thing in your child's world.*

## In short
The most reliable way to build eye contact is **not** to demand it ("look at me!") but to make looking towards your face naturally rewarding — by getting down to your child's level, joining their play, and pairing your face with the things they love. Eye contact develops best inside warm, back-and-forth moments, not as a drill. With playful, patient practice most children look more readily over time — and remember, comfortable looking matters more than constant looking.

## Gentle ways to invite eye contact
- **Get face-to-face and down low** — sit or lie at your child's eye level rather than above them. When your face is in their natural line of sight, looking takes no effort.
- **Follow their interest first** — join whatever they're already enjoying. Children look towards people who share their world, not people who interrupt it.
- **Pair your face with delight** — hold a favourite toy, bubble wand or snack near your eyes, so a glance towards you brings something lovely. Let the looking *earn* the fun, never the other way round.
- **Use big, warm expressions** — exaggerated smiles, singing, peek-a-boo and tickle-and-pause games make your face worth watching.
- **Pause and wait** — start a fun activity (blowing bubbles, swinging), then stop and wait expectantly. A natural glance towards you is your cue to continue.
- **Never force or hold the chin** — turning a child's face towards you teaches discomfort, not connection. Celebrate any glance, however brief.

Go at your child's pace. Some children, especially those who find eye contact overwhelming, connect beautifully through side-by-side play and shared attention — and that is a real and valuable form of connection too.

## When a developmental check helps
Reduced eye contact can simply be a child's temperament or stage — but if it comes alongside limited response to their name, little pointing or sharing, delayed words, or reduced back-and-forth play, a developmental check is worth arranging. This isn't about labelling; it's about understanding how your child connects and learns, so support can be shaped early if it's needed.

## The Pinnacle way
AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional — never from an app or checklist. Across [70+ centres in 4 states](/) our therapists help families turn everyday moments into connection. Discover how a [developmental profile](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) is built, and how playful [speech therapy](https://www.pinnacleblooms.org/top-speech-therapy-center-india-proven-improvement-rate) strengthens the shared attention and communication that natural eye contact grows from.

## Trusted sources
CDC developmental milestones guidance on social and communication development; American Academy of Pediatrics parenting guidance (HealthyChildren.org); American Speech-Language-Hearing Association on early social communication.

**Next step —** Want to understand and strengthen how your child connects? [Book a developmental assessment with a Pinnacle clinician](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated).

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- CDC developmental milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- AAP HealthyChildren.org: https://www.healthychildren.org
- ASHA early social communication: https://www.asha.org

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