# Friendship seeking: what to observe on a home visit

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On a home visit, a frontline worker should observe how a child notices, approaches and engages other children and familiar people — looking towards them, moving closer, offering or sharing a toy, exchanging smiles and simple turn-taking. Friendship seeking (ICF d7) develops gradually, so observations are judged against age and framed by strengths. Persistent low interest in others, little shared attention, or solitary play across several months is worth a gentle referral for a general developmental check — never a home diagnosis.

*Friendships begin long before words — in a shared glance, a giggle, a toddler toddling towards another child to join the fun.*

## In short
During a home visit, observe how the child notices, approaches and engages other children and familiar people — looking for them, moving towards them, offering a toy, sharing a smile or play. Friendship seeking (ICF d7, interpersonal interactions) grows gradually, so judge it against the child's age and warmly note what they *can* do. This is gentle observation to monitor and refer, never a diagnosis at home.

## What to watch on a home visit
Friendship seeking shows up in everyday moments — watch how the child relates, not just whether they speak.

**Noticing and interest in others**
- Looks towards other children, parents or siblings; brightens when familiar people arrive
- Watches other children at play and shows curiosity rather than turning away every time

**Approaching and joining**
- Moves or reaches towards another child to be near or join in
- Seeks an adult to share something — pointing, showing a toy, bringing an object

**Sharing and back-and-forth**
- Shared smiles, giggles, simple turn-taking (rolling a ball, peek-a-boo)
- Offers or accepts a toy; copies another child's action in play

What is worth a closer, kind look: a child who shows **very little interest in other people over several months**, **rarely shares attention or eye contact**, or whose **play stays solitary** when peers are nearby — especially if more than one area seems behind for their age. Note it; don't label it.

## When to refer
If you see a persistent pattern across visits, gently encourage the family towards a general developmental check at the PHC or a Pinnacle centre. Hearing should be checked too, since it shapes social connection. Early support never waits for a diagnosis.

## The Pinnacle way
At [Pinnacle Blooms Network](/), we start with the child's strengths and build social connection through warm, play-based [early intervention therapy](/early-intervention-therapy), coaching parents as everyday partners. Learn more about [friendship seeking](/friendship-seeking). A clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre under qualified clinician care — nothing here is a diagnosis.

## Trusted sources
Aligned with the WHO ICF framework on interpersonal interactions (chapter d7), and CDC and HealthyChildren.org guidance on social-emotional milestones and developmental monitoring.

**Next step —** if a child you've visited shows a social pattern you'd like understood, guide the family to book a developmental screen with our clinical team on WhatsApp at +91 91001 81181.

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- WHO ICF — interpersonal interactions and relationships (chapter d7): https://icd.who.int
- CDC — social-emotional milestones and developmental monitoring: https://www.cdc.gov
- HealthyChildren.org (AAP) — social and play development: https://healthychildren.org

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