# Therapist techniques for developing friendship skills

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Friendship skills develop through structured, peer-mediated practice that teaches joint attention, turn-taking, perspective-taking and conflict repair, then rehearses them in real low-pressure peer contexts using peer-mediated intervention, video modelling, social narratives and behavioural skills training, with deliberate programming for generalisation. AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

*Friendship is a learnable skill — built turn by turn, repair by repair, in moments that feel safe enough to risk connection.*

## In short
Friendship skills are best developed through **structured, peer-mediated practice** that breaks social connection into teachable components — joint attention, turn-taking, perspective-taking, conflict repair and reciprocal play — then rehearses them in real, low-pressure peer contexts. Evidence favours naturalistic, generalisation-focused methods over isolated drills: skills must be coached *in vivo*, with peers, and faded gradually toward independence.

## Techniques that work
- **Peer-mediated intervention (PMI)** — train and prime typically-developing peers as social partners; this reliably improves initiations and sustained interaction and generalises better than adult-led practice alone.
- **Video modelling and self-modelling** — show the target skill (joining a game, sharing, handling a "no") on screen, then rehearse; strong evidence for acquisition and retention.
- **Social narratives and comic-strip conversations** — make hidden social rules and others' thoughts explicit before entering the situation.
- **Behavioural skills training** — instruction, modelling, role-play, feedback — for discrete skills like greetings, compliments and turn-requests.
- **Structured play groups with embedded coaching** — set up cooperative games that *require* reciprocity, then prompt-and-fade in the moment.
- **Emotion and perspective-taking work** — labelling feelings, theory-of-mind tasks, and explicit repair scripts after conflict.

Programme deliberately for **generalisation**: vary peers, settings and prompts, and recruit natural reinforcers so connection itself becomes rewarding.

## When to refer
Refer for fuller assessment where social difficulty is pervasive, distressing, or paired with restricted-repetitive patterns, language delay, or significant peer rejection — to clarify underlying drivers before intensifying intervention.

## The Pinnacle way
AbilityScore® is part of Pinnacle’s developmental assessment. Diagnosis, where needed, requires an appropriately qualified healthcare professional. Our therapists target [friendship skills](/friendship-skills) within play-based and group [behavioural therapy](/behavioural-therapy), shaped by each child's [clinician-administered AbilityScore® profile](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated).

## Trusted sources
ASHA guidance on social communication intervention; CDC developmental milestones for social-emotional skills; AAP/HealthyChildren guidance on peer relationships and play.

**Next step —** Partner with Pinnacle to build a generalisation-focused social skills plan for your client. [Connect with our clinical team](/behavioural-therapy).

This is general information, not a diagnosis — individual assessment and diagnosis require an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

## Sources
- ICF d7: https://icd.who.int/browse11
- ASHA — social communication intervention guidance: https://www.asha.org
- CDC — social-emotional developmental milestones: https://www.cdc.gov
- AAP HealthyChildren — peer relationships and play: https://www.healthychildren.org

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/skills
- Therapist: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/therapist
- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
- Support: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/support
- Act: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/act
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Family Empowerment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/family_empowerment

## Related question paths

### Recognise signs & concerns
- Helping a child who isn't yet showing friendship skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-what-should-i-do-if-a-child-in-my-care-is-not-yet-showing-friendship-skills
- At What Age Do Children Develop Friendship Skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/at-what-age-should-a-child-friendship-skills
- Friendship Skills by Age: What a Teacher Should Expect: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/by-what-age-is-a-child-usually-expected-to-friendship-skills-and-what-should-a-teacher-expect-in-class
- Could Difficulty With Friendship Skills Be a Sign of Developmental Delay?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/could-difficulty-with-friendship-skills-be-a-sign-of-a-developmental-delay
- Observing Friendship Skills on a Home Visit: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/during-a-home-visit-what-should-a-frontline-worker-observe-about-a-child-learning-to-friendship-skills
- When should a frontline worker escalate friendship-skill concerns?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-friendship-skills-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- Is difficulty learning friendship skills a developmental red flag?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/is-difficulty-learning-to-friendship-skills-a-clinical-red-flag-that-warrants-a-developmental-referral
- Is It Normal My Child Isn't Showing Friendship Skills Yet?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/is-it-normal-that-my-child-is-not-yet-showing-friendship-skills
- What does it mean if my child is not yet showing friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-does-it-mean-if-my-child-is-not-yet-showing-friendship-skills
- What signs suggest my child may need support with friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-signs-suggest-my-child-may-need-support-with-friendship-skills
- When Do Children Develop Friendship Skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/when-do-children-usually-friendship-skills

### Understand assessment
- How can a clinician assess and track a child's progress in friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-clinician-assess-and-track-a-child-s-progress-in-learning-to-friendship-skills
- What an amber zone for friendship skills means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-friendship-skills-what-does-that-mean
- My child is in the green zone for friendship skills — what does that mean?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-friendship-skills-what-does-that-mean
- Friendship Skills Red Zone — What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-friendship-skills-what-does-that-mean

### Explore therapy & support
- Therapist Techniques for Friendship-Seeking: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-therapist-what-techniques-help-a-child-develop-the-ability-to-friendship-seeking
- What techniques are used in social skills training?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-techniques-are-used-in-social-skills-training
- What therapy helps a child learn friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-therapy-helps-a-child-learn-to-friendship-skills
- How can a teacher support a child working on friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-child-working-on-friendship-skills
- As a therapist, what techniques help a child develop social skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-therapist-what-techniques-help-a-child-develop-the-ability-to-social-skills
- What therapy helps a child learn social skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-therapy-helps-a-child-learn-to-social-skills
- Prioritising a Child in the Amber Zone for Friendship Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-friendship-skills
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the green zone for friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-green-zone-for-friendship-skills
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the red zone for friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-red-zone-for-friendship-skills
- How a teacher can support a student learning friendship skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-student-who-is-still-learning-to-friendship-skills
- Amber Zone for Friendship Skills — What to Do Next: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-friendship-skills-what-should-we-do-next
- Green zone for friendship skills — what to do next: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-friendship-skills-what-should-we-do-next

### At home & in everyday life
- Helping Your Child Practise Friendship Skills at Home: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-how-can-i-gently-help-a-child-practise-learning-to-friendship-skills-during-everyday-routines
- How can I help my child learn friendship skills at home?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-i-help-my-child-with-learn-to-friendship-skills-at-home
- What is one Everyday Therapy activity to help my child with friendship skills?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-is-one-everyday-therapy-activity-to-help-my-child-with-friendship-skills