# Caregiver Guide: When a Child Isn't Greeting Yet

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Social greeting — waving, smiling back, saying "hi" — usually emerges between about 9 and 18 months, at each child's own pace. As a caregiver, keep modelling warm greetings, weave them into daily routines, and arrange a calm developmental check if greeting isn't growing alongside other social-communication steps like responding to name, pointing or babble. This is not a diagnosis — it's an early, supportive look, because gentle play-based help works beautifully at this age.

*A wave, a smile, a shy "hi" — these little hellos grow at their own pace, and your gentle attention helps them bloom.*

## In short
Social greeting — waving, smiling back, saying or signing "hi" and "bye" — usually emerges between about 9 and 18 months, but every child arrives at their own time. As a caregiver, the best things you can do are keep modelling warm greetings, build them into daily routines, and arrange a calm developmental check if the skill isn't appearing alongside other social-communication steps. This is not a diagnosis — it's a wise, early look that helps you support the child with confidence.

## What to watch
Greeting is one thread in a child's wider social weave. Gentle signs that a clinician's eye would help include:

- **No shared looking or smiling back** when you greet them face to face.
- **Not responding to their name** by around 12 months.
- **No early gestures** — no waving, pointing or reaching to be picked up by 12–15 months.
- **Few or no words** by 16–18 months, or little babble used to "talk" to people.
- **Greeting that isn't growing** — staying the same over weeks despite warm, repeated modelling.

The aim is reassurance, not alarm: most children simply need more playful practice, and a check tells you exactly where they are.

## The science
Greeting sits within ICF activity-and-participation (d7, interpersonal interactions). It is learnt through hundreds of warm, repeated exchanges — eye contact, turn-taking, copying. Naming the greeting, pausing to give a turn, and celebrating any attempt all strengthen it. When greeting lags alongside other social steps, early playful support works beautifully at this age.

## The Pinnacle way
A clinical [AbilityScore®](/ask/what-is-the-abilityscore-and-how-is-it-calculated) and any diagnosis are formed only at a Pinnacle Blooms Network centre, under qualified clinician care — never from an online list. Our clinicians watch how the child connects, then build support around play. You can read more about [social greeting](/social-greeting) and how our [speech therapy](/speech-therapy) team nurtures early connection.

## Trusted sources
WHO ICF framework for interpersonal interactions (chapter d7); CDC "Learn the Signs, Act Early" milestones on social and communication development; American Academy of Pediatrics (healthychildren.org) guidance on early social-emotional milestones.

**Next step —** Trust what you've noticed. [Book a developmental assessment](/enroll) with a Pinnacle clinician for a warm, clear picture of the child's social milestones.

## Sources
- CDC Learn the Signs, Act Early — social milestones: https://www.cdc.gov/child-development
- WHO ICF — interpersonal interactions (d7): https://icd.who.int/
- AAP HealthyChildren — early social-emotional development: https://www.healthychildren.org/

## Connected topics and perspectives
- Skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/skills
- Caregiver: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/stakeholder/caregiver
- Social: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/domain/social
- Concern: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/intent/concern
- Screen: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/lifecycle/screen
- Book Assessment: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/route/book-assessment
- Early Clarity: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/lens/empowerment/early_clarity

## Related question paths

### Recognise signs & concerns
- Is It Normal My Child Isn't Yet Showing Social Greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/is-it-normal-that-my-child-is-not-yet-showing-social-greeting
- What does it mean if my child is not yet showing social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-does-it-mean-if-my-child-is-not-yet-showing-social-greeting
- When do children usually start social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/when-do-children-usually-social-greeting
- At what age should a child use social greetings?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/at-what-age-should-a-child-social-greeting
- Social Greeting: What to Observe on a Home Visit: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/during-a-home-visit-what-should-a-frontline-worker-observe-about-a-child-learning-to-social-greeting
- What to do if a child isn't yet showing social skills: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-what-should-i-do-if-a-child-in-my-care-is-not-yet-showing-social
- Social greeting milestone — age expectations for teachers: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/by-what-age-is-a-child-usually-expected-to-social-greeting-and-what-should-a-teacher-expect-in-class
- Could difficulty with social greeting be a sign of a developmental delay?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/could-difficulty-with-social-greeting-be-a-sign-of-a-developmental-delay
- When to escalate a social greeting delay: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/if-a-child-cannot-social-greeting-at-the-expected-age-when-should-a-frontline-health-worker-escalate
- Is difficulty with social greeting a developmental red flag?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/is-difficulty-learning-to-social-greeting-a-clinical-red-flag-that-warrants-a-developmental-referral
- What signs suggest my child may need support with social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-signs-suggest-my-child-may-need-support-with-social-greeting

### Understand assessment
- How a clinician assesses and tracks social greeting: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-clinician-assess-and-track-a-child-s-progress-in-learning-to-social-greeting
- Amber Zone for Social Greeting: What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean
- Green Zone for Social Greeting Explained: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean
- Red Zone for Social Greeting — What It Means: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting-what-does-that-mean

### Explore therapy & support
- Techniques to develop social greeting: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-therapist-what-techniques-help-a-child-develop-the-ability-to-social-greeting
- How can a teacher support a child working on social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-child-working-on-social-greeting
- How can a teacher support a student who is still learning to social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-a-teacher-support-a-student-who-is-still-learning-to-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the amber zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the green zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting
- How should a therapist prioritise a child in the red zone for social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-should-a-therapist-prioritise-a-child-who-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting
- Amber zone for social greeting — your next step: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-amber-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- Green zone for social greeting: what to do next: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-green-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- Red Zone in Social Greeting — Your Next Steps: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/my-child-is-in-the-red-zone-for-social-greeting-what-should-we-do-next
- What therapy helps a child learn social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-therapy-helps-a-child-learn-to-social-greeting

### At home & in everyday life
- Helping Your Child Practise Social Greetings at Home: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/as-a-caregiver-how-can-i-gently-help-a-child-practise-learning-to-social-greeting-during-everyday-routines
- Helping Your Child Learn Social Greeting at Home: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/how-can-i-help-my-child-with-learn-to-social-greeting-at-home
- What is one Everyday Therapy activity to help my child with social greeting?: https://pinnacleblooms.org/ask/what-is-one-everyday-therapy-activity-to-help-my-child-with-social-greeting